A friend points out Malcolm Gladwell’s latest, on our remarkable resiliency, as opposed to our 21st century commitment to long-term suffering:
We suffer from what Wilson and Gilbert call an impact bias: we always assume that our emotional states will last much longer than they do. We forget that other experiences will compete for our attention and emotions. We forget that our psychological immune system will kick in and take away the sting of adversity. ?When I talk about our research, I say to people, ?I?m not telling you that bad things don?t hurt,?? Gilbert says. ?Of course they do. It would be perverse to say that having a child or a spouse die is not a big deal. All I?m saying is that the reality doesn?t meet the expectation.?